“Realize deeply that the present moment is all you have. Make the NOW the primary focus of your life.” –Eckhart Tolle
Living in a consumerist society, it’s easy to notice the things we don’t have.
We don’t have the new iPhone. We don’t have the “in” cute black shoes. We don’t have the hair portrayed in that conditioner commercial.
It’s equally as easy (especially for you goal-motivated readers) to notice where you’re not.
You’re not at X weight. At X mile. In the career position you dream of. It’s easy to think “I’ll be happy when I get to X goal” or “when I get X smartphone.”
Obviously, this is fools thinking. Happiness comes from within, do not seek it without.
Thinking you’ll be happy when X happens is a happiness myth. Psychologists call this hedonic adaptation: once you get the thing you wanted, you adapt, and then want something greater. So, if you initially want to go down to size 6 thinking that will make you happy, once you are at size 6 you will adapt, and then move onto a smaller size that you believe will bring you happiness.
That being said, take a moment to step back this week and appreciate where you are NOW. Look at where you are, and be grateful for where you are in your journey.
- Meditation: try a meditation that focuses on mindfulness
- Reflect on 5 things you are grateful for presently
- Reflect on your past failings, and notice how far you’ve come since
- Claim a day with NO GOALS, focus on just being